Chapter 3477: Research on Cats and Dogs (Part 36)

The topic of intimate relationships between two people is enduring because there is simply too much that can be explored. It could be said that using all the knowledge of psychology and sociology might not be enough to summarize every situation.

But one noteworthy rule is that in the emotional relationship between two people, there must be a distinction between strong and weak. One person is strong, and the other is weak. Either the east wind prevails over the west wind, or the west wind prevails over the east wind.

Although many people have long understood this rule and think they can be the strong one between the two, in reality, even after exhausting all their tricks, they still always end up being the weaker party.

Whether searching on the internet or reading books related to emotions, one can see many people teaching methods to become the strong party. Because there are too many benefits to being the strong one.

The situation is completely under control, and one can do whatever one wants. The other party can never leave you, and you have enough means to ensure the other party's loyalty.

But in reality, these methods are not that easy to use. Some small tricks and techniques, without the support of core strength, are ultimately just rootless duckweed, only inviting ridicule.

The key to the strong-weak relationship in emotions actually lies in emotional self-control. To put it bluntly, the person who doesn't love enough always wins.

Emotional people can never be the strong party in an emotional relationship. The richer the emotions, the more severely one is suppressed.

Conversely, the more detached and the more cold-blooded one is, the more one can occupy the initiative in an emotional relationship.

But whether one is emotional and whether one is cold-blooded enough is mostly innate; it cannot be changed by techniques.

Delving into the principle, it can also be summarized in one sentence. Just like what the Injustice Superman controlled by Charles said, the "standard of measurement" is a very important link.

Everyone has a scale in their heart. Your evaluation of someone determines your attitude toward them.

Someone makes you dislike them, but you can profit from them, so perhaps you can greet them with a smile. Someone has no conflict of interest with you, but you just like being with them, so you can also face them with a pleasant mood.

If you reveal it too clearly, people will summarize the patterns from it. Whether you like a certain type of person, whether I am the type of person you like, what I need to do to make you like or dislike me—these can all be answered through observation.

This will make people feel secure and emotionally stable when getting along with you, as they know what to expect.

However, some people won't do this. They will deliberately hide the standards by which they measure others.

They seem to greet some people with a smile, but quietly damage their interests; they seem cold and ruthless to some people, but have been supporting them in secret.

It sounds like a mental patient, as if the left brain and right brain are in conflict, and the left hand and right hand are fighting.

But many times, it's not like that. They do this to prevent others from seeing through them, to prevent others from knowing their likes and dislikes.

When you don't know what kind of person they like, you can't cater to them. Then when you need to please them, you are at a loss, only able to crash around like a headless fly.

People like to be pleased; what is the point of doing this?

In fact, this allows one to always occupy the initiative in the emotional relationship between two people.

Because you don't know what their standard of measurement is, you don't know what status you occupy in their heart. In order to figure out the standard, in order to verify your status, you will experiment repeatedly.

The less you understand, the more curious you become. Curiosity kills the cat.

Here, I have to mention the "Attention Theory" again. The more you pay attention to someone, the greater the impact they have on you, and the easier it is for them to manipulate and control you.

They hide their standards of measurement, which is essentially to gain attention, making people actively explore them and actively pay attention to them, in order to achieve the goal of manipulating others.

In a simple emotional relationship, you can choose to forget it if you don't understand, define this person as "eccentric," and then walk away.

But once interests are involved, things become a hundred times more complex. Even non-mandatory social relationships like family are not that easy to break free from, let alone more complex conflicts of interest.

Once you encounter such a person, in the process of getting along with them, you have to spend a lot of energy trying to understand them, and in the process, you are inevitably manipulated and consumed.

As for the solution, there is probably only one: if you can't beat them, join them.

Making yourself eccentric can be called the Hedgehog Strategy. A hedgehog is not a very strong animal, but compared to an ostrich that buries its head in the sand, at least it can let out a breath before being eaten.

But unfortunately, most people can't even do this. As I said before, emotional self-control is mostly innate. Some people are just overly emotional and can't hide their joy or anger, so they can only learn from their mistakes.

In most relationships between Superman and Batman, Batman is the relatively harder one to understand. In order to explore Batman, Superman has also spent a lot of energy.

Superman's emotional self-control ability is not weak; it's just that his curiosity is too heavy. If you walk by the river often, how can you not get your shoes wet? If you walk the night road too much, you will always meet Batman.

And in the relationship between Injustice Superman and Injustice Batman, Batman made a fatal mistake: he exposed one of his standards of measurement.

"Not killing" is Batman's principle, and it is also one of his standards of measurement. Usually, he wouldn't say to anyone, "Because you are my friend, you cannot kill." He wouldn't even say, "If you kill someone, I will directly kick you out of the category of friends and become your enemy."

It's equivalent to this standard usually being hidden as well. At least Superman wouldn't think of it.

However, after Injustice Superman killed someone, Injustice Batman clearly couldn't control his emotions either. He exposed his standard of measurement, turning "I don't like you because of this" into an established fact.

The moment a mysterious thing reveals its true face, all the ethereal rumors will be broken. The uncertainty and insecurity will all return to nothingness.

To put it bluntly, the hanging heart finally died.

Once Injustice Superman determined that everything was irredeemable, he wouldn't spend any more energy trying to understand Batman.

And how much damage a husky with no one to leash it can cause, naturally, there's no need to elaborate.

Therefore, Charles doesn't dwell on whether killing is right or wrong, or rather, people from Marvel don't like to dwell on this.

As a master of psychology, Charles points out more directly and profoundly the only mistake Batman made—he didn't maintain his strong position in the emotional relationship between the two, lost the initiative, and caused the situation to become what it is now.

Moreover, he also leads by example. The relationship between two people is either you are weak and I am strong, or you are strong and I am weak. If you, Batman, become weak, then the one who occupies the initiative next will be Superman.

"He panicked." Diana pointed out sharply in front of the screen, "Clearly, Superman's reaction exceeded his expectations. He couldn't understand Superman's emotions anymore, just like one day we suddenly couldn't understand the addition problem 1+1=2; this is simply alarming."

"Ginger is still old and spicy." Bruce commented. Then he looked at Clark and said, "But some people don't have such troubles. After he couldn't read my emotions, he didn't stop to try to understand, but chose to continue pushing the plot."

"God, Bruce." Clark covered his face with his hands and pushed his cheeks upward, then said, "I'm really sorry. I swear I definitely don't not care about you... wait, you wouldn't be doing this on purpose, would you?"

"You just want me to pay attention to you, and only pay attention to you, and then mess everything else up." Clark stared at Bruce and raised his voice, saying, "I'll say it again! I only maintain normal and healthy interpersonal relationships. Stay away from me, you lunatic!"

Bruce muttered a few words, then complained a bit: "It's not because of that. You clearly were just too stupid to understand."

"That's also my talent." Clark said, "My super-brain automatically blocked your damn fishing behavior. I should buy something delicious to celebrate."

"You want to fish for Clark, but you don't think about whether your level is enough." Diana really couldn't help it, she said, "If Clark were really a fish, he might even drag your teacher Schiller into the water. You actually thought about fishing him up?"

"Not really." Bruce said, "At the time, I was indeed a bit sad, but not to the point of being stimulated; it's just that the indifferent attitude of some people made me even sadder..."

Clark looked away with a guilty conscience, but soon turned back and said: "I sensed that something was wrong with you, but when I asked you what was going on, you wouldn't say. I don't understand psychology, so I could only treat it as daily madness."

"So stop acting crazy so often." Diana said, "And speak directly if you have something to say. No one here has time to read your mind."

Bruce shook his head and sighed helplessly, saying: "You bunch of Metropolis people really have no artistic cells. It's a good thing I'm not Batman anymore..."

"If you were still Batman, get out of my Metropolis." Lex said decisively.

On the screen, Injustice Superman's expression carried a hint of playfulness. And in his mental world, the blue-eyed young man pushed up his glasses and looked at the Injustice Superman's mental body tied to the chair next to him:

"I told you. He is much more fragile than you think. Since you can no longer return to the past, why not start a brand new future?"

Injustice Superman stared at the situation outside, a bit dazed. The Batman he had never understood was just like this, losing his footing in front of him.

No heat vision, no freeze breath, no tit-for-tat verbal sparring. The young man currently controlling his body had only said a few words and given a look.

"Tell me, what should I do."

Charles appeared behind the chair, turned around and paced gently, then lowered his head to look at Injustice Superman.

"Never be more curious about him than he is about you. Never pay more attention to him than he pays to you. Once you are free, the one who is tied up will be him."

"I cannot control myself." Injustice Superman said. His tone revealed a hint of imperceptible pain, but no emotion could be hidden from Charles.

"I can help you." Charles's voice sounded more and more like a devil's whisper, he said, "I can help you seal away the extra emotions. Without those things hindering you, you will be invincible."

The hand gripping the armrest tightened. One scene after another from the past appeared in Injustice Superman's mind. It was always him being angry, him being sad. He was venting his emotions, while Batman watched coldly from the sidelines.

"I just want to know if he can really remain indifferent forever." Injustice Superman slowly closed his eyes and said, "Do it."

When Charles's figure appeared in the room under the Luthor Manor, everyone was shocked.

"Why are you back so soon, Professor Xavier? They..."

"I sealed a portion of Superman's emotions." Charles said, "This will allow him to remain calm when facing Batman."

Diana said with some surprise: "Then he... I mean, he can control Batman? The two of them..."

Charles shook his head and said: "No, human emotions cannot be sealed. The longer they are sealed, the more violent they will be when they erupt."

"When the pent-up emotions erupt, he will understand that ruling the Earth is nothing but a passing cloud. Past friendship outweighs everything, so naturally, there won't be any conflicts."

The others were dumbfounded.

Charles looked at Bruce again.

"I heard you also have some conflicts with your partner?"

Bruce and Clark hugged each other instantly, and Bruce's head shook until it was a blur.

"No, absolutely not. We two are best friends for life!"

?? Family Conflict Mediation Master

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