Chapter 4190: The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy (VIII)

The topic changed really fast, Peter was stunned for a moment. But he still thought about it seriously and shook his head.

"Why?" Polaris asked.

"Wanda has a very clear pursuit, she just wants a perfect and warm family. All her behaviors are revolving around this purpose. She has to find a lover first, have a few children, buy a house and a car, find a stable job, go home after work every day, and gather with her family to enjoy happy times. She has been working hard for this goal, and she has succeeded."

"Then what about me?"

"You? Actually, I don't know you very well," Peter said, "You look much more rebellious than her. You don't look like the kind of person who likes a stable life at all. You are always running around, it's hard to stay in one place for a long time, brave to take risks, and try all kinds of new things."

"I used to look down on Wanda's pursuit," Polaris said, "That kind of life is really terrible. Turning around the family every day, taking care of her husband and children, trapping herself in a small house, while I should have owned the entire universe."

Peter considered it and said: "I would rather believe that people spend their whole lives pursuing a place that can make them willing to stop here. This place can be a home, a person, or a journey. It can only be said that everyone's pursuit is different."

"Yeah, I used to think that I and Wanda were diametrically opposite. But I suddenly found that, in fact, I and her are very similar, or rather, our father and the four of us are very similar."

"What do you mean?" Peter asked.

"Our growth experience is slightly bumpy. Although my mother, my stepfather, and my biological father were all quite good to me, I have always found it difficult to have a stable family. We are all the same, so we have been pursuing such a family."

"So you mean you are willing?"

"No, I am very collapsed. I don't want to use the second half of my life to make up for the missing of the first half of my life at all, so I was so angry."

Until this moment, Peter finally realized. He understood why Polaris was so entangled.

There are two types of people in this world, they will have two different attitudes when encountering suffering. One type of person will have a compensatory psychology after carrying through the suffering. They will feel that I have suffered such a big crime before, I must compensate myself well. Before, I didn't have the ability, now I have the ability, naturally I have to compensate my former self fiercely.

Another type of person chooses to let the suffering pass. They will feel that the past things have passed, there is really no need to be trapped in the past, they should enjoy the present, look at the future, instead of always being tripped by certain memories of the past.

Actually, these two cannot be said to be better or worse. Although the compensatory psychology of the former may lead to over-compensation, such as buying a pile of toys that couldn't be bought when young, but actually not playing at all, or habitually eating snacks and drinking beverages, which has no benefit to health.

But to some extent, this compensation is beneficial to mental health. They can gain happiness through this compensation, heal their past trauma themselves, step by step improve the protection mechanism, until the day they completely walk out.

Although the latter does not have the risk of over-compensation, it looks like a very open-minded attitude towards life, but it is still that sentence, just like the trauma on the body. Some small wounds can indeed heal themselves, but if it reaches an extremely serious injury, such as opening the stomach or comminuted fracture, this kind of injury will kill people if left alone. It is just expressed at the spiritual level, many people do not pay attention to it, blindly hypnotizing themselves that "it will pass," leading to worsening, and finally rotting from the inside.

Now, Polaris is in this situation. She thinks she doesn't need compensation like Wanda, she thinks she let the past pass, but suddenly one day, she finds that, in fact, she didn't.

The wound is still there, and it has rotted very seriously. She needs treatment, needs compensation, but all of this is not on her life list. She doesn't want to live such a life. Her emotional needs and her life pursuit conflicted, so she collapsed.

Peter finally understood why Polaris maliciously speculated that he was the kind of male chauvinist before, such as guessing that he created a secret base to escape family life, or telling his wife about this base just to let her do some housework. Because Polaris is very afraid of these, fear always makes people sharp.

Even if Peter's married life is very happy, he has to admit that this fear is reasonable. Because there are many people with unhappy marriages, and there are too many people who exert excessive control in the family, completely turning the family into a kind of bondage, simply like a prison.

For Polaris, who has been pursuing freedom, this is the scene she fears most. Although she may know in her heart that the person who proposed to her is not such a person, but standing from Polaris's perspective, someone trying to drag her into such a prison is scary enough.

"Do you not envy your sister's life at all?" Peter tentatively asked.

Polaris looked at him, then shook her head, and then said: "Do you think it's very unreasonable? I said I don't envy her, but I also said that maybe we are very similar. I know this is very contradictory, but if there is no such contradiction, I wouldn't be so uncomfortable."

Peter understood again. Perhaps, Polaris is fighting between heaven and man. Her reason tells her that she doesn't need a family, she wants to be free, she wants to explore the universe, but the deep heart, some scars that have never healed, kidnap her from an emotional perspective, requiring her to envy this family life to make up for the misfortune of the past.

Now Polaris can give him a negative answer, because her reason still exists. When reason occupies the dominant position, she will not change her plan for life. But when emotion occupies the dominant position, it may not be certain.

Peter gasped, this degree is still too difficult for him. Because he has lived with Dr. Schiller, he learned a hand, but he is not a professional psychologist after all. He really can't imagine what a professional psychologist would do.

"Are you thinking, why don't I go to a psychologist?"

Peter nodded and said: "What are your concerns?"

"Do you think Schiller has had such a stage?"

"What?"

"He is single, right? And he looks like the kind of person who enjoys single life very much. Has he faced the dilemma of whether to start a family?"

"This..." Peter really hesitated and said, "We once thought the doctor had a marriage history, but later found it was a misunderstanding. He also clearly stated that he is a mental patient, and starting a family and raising offspring are not in his plan."

"That's why I don't go to him." Polaris's glass of wine was almost finished, she obviously showed a collapsed emotion, she said, "There is a voice in my head telling me to find those who are married, find those who are happily married, look at their families, it won't be as unfortunate as I think. I should have the courage. I think it may also make some sense, look at you..."

"Wait!" Peter hurriedly called to stop, he said, "I am an exception. Or rather, the happily married people you can find are all exceptions. You'd better not make such a hasty decision."

"Your married life is so happy, you actually don't persuade me to get married?"

Peter opened his mouth, and was speechless for a while. He and Gwen are very good, but this married life is lived, the better the relationship, the more aware that if there is a bad link, if there is a bad trait in the two of them, or even bad luck, they may live a very bad life. There are too many things that need to be just right.

If Peter wants to describe it, a happy marriage is like a perfect crime in probability theory. You must have everything just right, if there is a little bit of difference, maybe it's all over.

And very unfortunately, only people with happy marriages can realize this. Because people with unhappy marriages don't even have the strength to think about such problems.

This is why many people have unhappy marriages, but they still have to persuade people to get married. Some may be deliberately bad, but more is that they no longer have the strength to distinguish between good and bad. Instead, many family members with very happy marriages will persuade you to be cautious, because they have walked all the way to the present, and only then have the strength to distinguish which pits they almost stepped on, and how dangerous these pits are.

Polaris stopped talking. Peter considered whether to persuade again, but just at this time, a person walked into the bar door, and it caused some noise.

Arkham Knight took off his faceplate, slapped his gun on the bar, walked over and shook hands with Peter and said: "Nice to meet you, Spider-Man. And you, Polaris, we meet again."

Polaris didn't pay attention to him at all. Arkham Knight frowned, he looked at Peter and said: "What's wrong with her? Drunk?"

"It's hard to explain in a few words," Peter had to pull Arkham Knight aside and said, "The matter is urgent, I'll make a long story short. Our team has one last position, if you want to join, we welcome it, but now I may have to take her to see a doctor..."

Arkham Knight's eyes widened in surprise and said: "See a doctor? What's wrong with her? My God, she could still mutter in my ear for several hours after losing her physical body, and she would still get sick?"

"It's some psychological problems, it's hard for me to explain to you..."

Arkham Knight's expression became serious immediately, and then said: "What problem?"

"It's some psychological trauma. Forget it, I can't explain it to you, I have to hurry..."

Arkham Knight still held him and said: "Look at what time it is now, where is there a hospital open? You don't want to send her to the emergency room, right? Are you sure she can afford the bill?"

Peter just wanted to say that he was looking for Dr. Schiller, but thought about it, it was indeed a bit too late now. Dr. Schiller has been very busy recently, if he went to disturb him in the middle of the night, it might affect his rest.

"Tell me what's going on, maybe I have a way?"

Peter sighed, still making a long story short, and summarized the entangled problem of Polaris for Arkham Knight.

"So that's it," Arkham Knight said thoughtfully, "Alright, let me talk to her." ===== CHAPTER 4191 =====

Peter sighed, but still kept it brief, summarizing the tangled problem Polaris was facing for the Arkham Knight.

"So that's how it is," the Arkham Knight said thoughtfully, "Alright, let me talk to her."