Chapter 4331

Clark looked toward Lois. Lois only gave him a slightly apologetic smile. The reflection of the lights flickering in her pupils became brighter and brighter.

Her whole face was immersed in the light of the computer screen. Her fingers typed a line on the keyboard, "Who exactly are you?"

"A businessman and collector. If you are interested in me, why don't we meet. Perhaps I can help you solve your problems."

Lois's fingers paused for a moment, but in the end, she replied in the email: "Okay. Tomorrow morning at 10 o'clock. See you at the cafe at 9 Missouri Avenue."

At 10 o'clock the next morning, Lois appeared in the cafe as promised. As soon as she pushed the door open, she keenly noticed a man sitting in the corner of the cafe. As an independent reporter, she had seen countless people, and the moment she saw that man, she knew he was not simple.

However, Lois still walked over, sat down opposite him, nodded to him, and said: "Hello, Mr. Rodriguez. I made an appointment with you today mainly to express my gratitude. The clues you provided me regarding the royal cultural relic exchange scandal brought me considerable reputation and income. Of course, compared to verbal thanks, I still want to provide others with what they want as a reward. Although I am not an internationally renowned reporter, there are quite a few things I can do. If you run into any trouble, come find me anytime."

"Thank you, madam." Schiller put down his phone, smiled at her, and then said, "Thanking me is not urgent. We all know that the aftermath of this matter has not subsided at all. Have you encountered any trouble recently?"

"It really can't be hidden from you." After Lois ordered, she handed the menu to the waiter, placed her hands on the table, and then said, "Do you understand Superman?"

"Heard of him."

"I am a reporter, I know, saying this might sound hypocritical. After all, the profession of reporter is hard to leave a good impression on people. But I have to say, this world needs Superman. I want to help him."

"We all agree on this point," Schiller nodded and said, "This world needs powerful good people to pull them when humans are about to fall into the abyss. However, how exactly do you want to help him?"

"The good side of him no longer needs to be emphasized more." Lois picked up the coffee that was sent over, took a sip, and said, "I want to help him make up for his shortcomings. To be precise, it is to eliminate some hidden dangers that exist on him."

"For example?"

"Identity problem," Lois said, "I don't know if you are clear, Superman is not an Earthling. I once chased him into an alien spaceship, he should be from another planet."

"This is quite fresh. Since he is an alien, why would he firmly stand on the side of humans?"

"I guess it might be that he was sent to Earth when he was still a baby, and his adoptive parents treated him very well and educated him to be very excellent. He treats Earth as his home, so naturally, he will want to protect it. But you also know that this will definitely cause suspicion from some people."

"I understand," Schiller nodded and said, "If he were a human, people would praise him for being just and powerful; but if he is not, no matter how well he does, people will feel dissatisfied, and even feel that he has ulterior motives."

"That's right. People are always afraid. But we can't say that this fear is wrong. In fact, I am also a very suspicious person, logically speaking, I shouldn't trust him either. However, my intuition is telling me that Superman is worth trusting."

"I won't impose my thoughts on others. I understand their questioning. I hope to use a gentler method to solve this problem."

"It seems you already have a way." Schiller said.

"I just have a rough concept. But if no one helps, I'm afraid I can't realize it, after all, I am just a reporter, not a businessman with connections like you. There are many things I can't get."

"Can you talk about your plan?" Schiller asked, and then added a sentence immediately, "Of course, I am on your side and will never reveal any information before the plan succeeds."

"I believe you," Lois looked into Schiller's eyes and said, "People like you always behave like enemies in front of friends and like friends in front of enemies."

Schiller narrowed his eyes slightly and smiled.

"Wanting to make a person valued is very difficult. He needs to do very well himself, needs to have a suitable opportunity to be known by everyone, and then show his own value, constantly striving to make progress, in order to obtain a pivotal position."

Lois talked about her plan.

"But wanting to make a person not valued is very simple. Just make this person an accessory to others."

"For example, if a woman is married, she will inevitably be considered 'someone's wife' among another group of people. It is the same for men. This is the identity they play in their lives. But if this identity is overly emphasized, people will start to despise him, not ask for his opinion, not care about what he thinks, and even not care about anything related to him. Because accessories are not important enough."

Schiller nodded, he could naturally understand what Lois was talking about. When a person is strongly bound to another person, it can be husband and wife, it can be parents and children, or it can be leaders and subordinates, etc. Equal relationships are actually relatively rare, and most are one side leading and the other side echoing. And the more extreme ones are one side completely occupying the master position, while the other side becomes an accessory.

Take the most common parent-child relationship as an example. When children are young, many people will treat them as accessories to their parents and cannot truly realize that children have independent personalities, so when doing many things, they will not consider the child's opinion, but ask their parents, and even if the child takes the initiative to put forward an opinion, they will choose to ignore it, just because they treat the child as an accessory to the parents.

In this situation, the child's situation will also be ignored. For example, if something happens to a child at school, it might be a earth-shattering event for the child, but in fact, adults don't care at all, because they are always recognized as "dependents".

It is the same in sexual relationships. If a person's opinion is not listened to for a long time, such as travel itinerary, living habits, hobbies, etc., it means he is not valued and is regarded as an appendage of another person.

From this, it can be inferred that when you want to dwarf a person, directly belittling him to his face is not the best choice, because this will expose the malice too obviously. Everyone is not a fool, even if it is said relatively tactfully, there are still people who can hear that you are being sarcastic, so there is no way to occupy the moral high ground.

The correct approach is to regard him as an appendage in a relationship: ignore his opinions, not pay attention to his situation, or overly focus on another person in this relationship, in order to express the importance of the other person, thereby setting off the lack of importance of the person you want to dwarf.

If there are always people around you doing this, for example, when you are clearly present at a family gathering, but when talking about your affairs, you have to ask your parents' opinions; when couples are together with others, whether it is ordering food or arranging activities, they only focus on your partner's choice, and no matter what opinions you put forward, they don't care at all, this is a typical dwarfing behavior.

Many people don't notice it because they will fall into a kind of self-doubt, feeling that it might be that their opinions are not good enough, or their knowledge reserve in this area is not enough to express opinions, so they will be ignored. But in reality, it is not like this at all. This is a social suppression, some people are born with this trick, and when they use it, it is smooth and seamless, whoever encounters it is unlucky.

In addition, this kind of strong binding does not only happen between people, but sometimes also between people and things.

Some people, when referring to others, do not refer to the other party's subject. They are very accustomed to binding a person to other things, this thing is not on your subject, and it is not completely necessary for you.

Some people, when describing people, will say "tall", "long hair", "round face", etc., or go further to say "from the next class", "from a certain department", "graduated from a certain university". These are very normal adjectives, which are subjective. Physical characteristics and location are naturally bound to you.

However, some people will use adjectives like "the one who carries a white schoolbag every day", "the one who always holds a thermos cup", "the one who loves to order takeout" to describe others. This is actually a kind of dwarfing behavior, because he binds you to things that are neither natural nor necessary for you.

A person bought a white schoolbag and carried it for a period of time, which is the most normal thing, and maybe no one would notice it at ordinary times. However, if someone always uses "the person who carries a white schoolbag" to describe you, people will naturally bind you to the white schoolbag.

Then one day, you don't carry this white schoolbag anymore, many people will be strange, and then go to ask you: "Why don't you carry the white schoolbag anymore?"

It sounds like this is also a very normal thing, maybe many people have been asked like this. You changed your hairstyle, people will ask you why you changed your hairstyle; you usually take the bus to work, suddenly one day you ride a bicycle, people will ask you why you suddenly ride a bike. Most people may not have any malice, just curious. But in reality, "explanation" requires energy.

It has often been said before that when you go out, your identity is given by yourself, and if someone asks nonsense, you answer nonsense. But whether it is explaining according to facts or making up a story, it requires mental effort. And this kind of explanation is completely unnecessary and cannot produce any benefits. Even for people who are good at socializing, it is a waste of effort; not to mention those who are not good at socializing, they will blush and stutter when others ask, not knowing how to explain, and the consumption of emotions is very large.

In the final analysis, it is because some things that are not bound to you are regarded as strong bindings by people, and even regarded as one of your labels, so when you make changes, you will be questioned. And whether it is malicious or well-intentioned questioning, it is a kind of social pressure, which will consume people's energy and consume people's emotions.

And people who like to use unbound things to refer to someone are accustomed to creating this kind of social pressure for others. When you don't appear with this thing, they will definitely take the lead in pretending to be surprised and asking, just wanting to hear you explain.

Although this doesn't have any practical benefits for them, for some people, creating social pressure for others can bring pleasure and is their pastime, so they are always happy to do so.