Chapter 3079: Romantic

After the bonfire party ended, everyone cleaned up the mess. This time they learned to be smart. The main force returned to the Stone House first, leaving only a few people to do the work, and instead, they did it faster than before.

It was very late when they went back. Most of them went back to their rooms to sleep. Because many people drank alcohol, Wei En got up early the next day and found that there was no one, and everyone was still sleeping.

However, his biological clock is very stable, so he planned to make something to eat first. Just as he was checking the ingredients in the refrigerator, he suddenly heard footsteps on the stairs.

He turned his head and saw an unexpected person. It was Reed.

Wei En and Reed are actually not very familiar. They might have some intersection in work, but they have no contact in private.

But as soon as Reed appeared, Wei En knew he was coming for him. This is really not that he can read minds, mainly because Reed's eyes were so sleepy that he could barely open them. It looked like he was forced to turn on, and none of these scientists had a normal schedule.

Since he is not used to getting up early at all, and he got up so early and went downstairs so early, there is no need to say what he is doing.

Wei En originally planned to make a sandwich, but seeing this, he decided to fry an egg to deal with it. Out of politeness, he fried four eggs in total, made two cups of coconut milk, and brought them to the island counter next to him.

The fragrance of fried eggs made Reed a little more awake. He smiled at Wei En somewhat embarrassedly. The two sat on both sides of the island counter, chatting while eating breakfast.

There is no need to say Reed's purpose. In fact, he didn't intend to say anything, because Susan's performance yesterday already made him firmly believe that Wei En could read minds.

Speaking of Reed Richards, many people's first reaction is a troublemaker. However, many of the famous disasters caused by him were not done by Mr. Fantastic of the main universe, that is to say, they were not Marvel's official history, but parallel universes.

But it is not to say that Reed of the main universe is very good. The bad reputation of the Illuminati has half of his credit. In the earlier comics, he once did things like taking all the team funds to speculate on stocks and losing them all. In short, he is not a good person.

In Wei En's view, Reed is not a mental patient, nor does he have personality defects, and his mental state is very stable. He is a normal person.

But he has a biggest problem, which is the lack of a sense of responsibility. This is also the main reason why he is so talented, but his personality is unpopular and lacks personal charm.

The lack of a sense of responsibility is not only manifested in major events, but its impact in daily life is actually more serious.

Maybe many people have encountered such people in real life. They have high academic qualifications, strong technology, and don't look like the kind of stupid or clumsy ones. Their mental state is also quite stable, and they even show unparalleled talent in some aspects, but you are just not attracted to them.

This is actually very counterintuitive, because social status, personal ability, emotional stability, and emotional contagion are all important components of personal charm. People who usually possess these things must be very popular. Even if they only possess one or two of them, they will be very popular and have good popularity.

For example, some people have no talent, but their emotions are extremely stable, as if there is a solution to everything. As soon as you see him, you feel that there is no hurdle in this world that cannot be passed. Such people must have many close friends for many years.

Or some people have bad tempers and love to go crazy, but they are unique in their professional field and possess extremely strong abilities. Many people will also be unconsciously attracted by his talent and gather around him.

Let's look at Reed again. His talent is very famous, and he has a very high status in the scientific community. His emotions are also very stable. Even Stark, who looks down on him the most, has never seen him furious, at most with a bit of sarcasm.

He also has no significant symptoms of bad behavior, such as not being able to read the atmosphere, not being able to understand the emotions conveyed by others, etc.

If so, why is he unpopular?

Actually, the answer is that his subconscious mind doesn't realize at all that he should be responsible for all his words and deeds.

For example, everyone has times when they speak without thinking. Stark scolded the Apple phone camera for not being as good as a professional camera, and it happened that Pepper was taking pictures with an Apple phone next to him. This scene was very awkward, as if you just said bad things about someone to others, and that person appeared.

The sentence "turning shit into gold" that Stark replied sounded very absurd, as if he had no emotional intelligence. Fortunately, Pepper had high emotional intelligence and replied half-jokingly and half-reproachfully, and this matter passed.

However, the most important thing is Stark's attitude of making up for it after discovering that he said the wrong thing. Don't care about the method he used to make up for it, or whether he could actually take back the words he said. The key is this attitude.

But if it were Reed, after scolding something, and then finding that others were using it, he wouldn't try to make up for it. He doesn't feel that he is responsible for the words he said, nor does he feel that the words he said caused harm to someone, and he needs to be responsible.

This would lead to him saying a sentence, hurting someone, and people waiting for him to make up for it, but he didn't even have an awkward expression, and forgot about it two seconds later.

Over time, I don't know how many such things there are. Others are not stupid, why must they be stabbed by his side? The people around him naturally become fewer and fewer.

Reed also felt very puzzled. He didn't do anything bad to these people, and he had no malice himself, but others suddenly ignored him.

He went to ask these people again, and others were just in the appearance of "You did something yourself, don't you know?".

Then Reed felt even more inexplicable. What did I do? I didn't hinder you, and I didn't quarrel with you. Why is your attitude toward me so bad?

Little did he know, adults actually understand that you cannot be a person who will never hurt others emotionally. Whether it is intentional or unintentional, this is impossible to do. The key is your apology after hurting others.

Emotion is just the opposite of justice. It is said that late justice is not justice, but it is not like this in emotion. No matter how late the apology is, it is an apology. Even if you apologize ten years later, even if the person you apologized to might not remember what you did to him, as long as you are honest and express your apology to him, he will always feel that you are a sincere person.

Although expressing an apology cannot completely compensate for the harm, human emotions are contagious. If he can perceive your sincere guilt and be moved by this emotion, he can naturally dispel the resentment in his heart, or at least give him a reason to forgive you.

Even if you are not sincerely feeling guilty, even if you just make an apologetic appearance, it is in line with social moral requirements. In popular terms, being sorry for hurting others is one of the important standards for society to define a good person, and you have to pretend if you have to.

And people who possess all the traits of personal charm are unpopular, mainly because they don't pretend at all, and don't even have an attitude.

At first, many people might be confused by the appearance, thinking that this person is really talented, and it is my honor to be able to connect with him, and they unconsciously chase them.

But the fox tail of people who lack a sense of responsibility cannot be hidden. They will not consider anyone's feelings, and their expression without any apology is sharper than anything else. As long as they are in contact with them for a period of time, they will feel their incomprehensibility that is deeper than people with bad tempers, and even feel that they are completely unlike humans. The fear brought by this alienation will drive people to flee.

Some people are like Reed, who don't think they should be responsible, and some people realize they should be responsible, but avoid responsibility.

For example, the sentence "words spoken are like water splashed" is a typical avoidance of responsibility. Although it also has the meaning of warning people to think twice before speaking, it is more used as an excuse to avoid responsibility when you are struggling with whether to make up for some words spoken without thinking.

Words spoken are indeed like water splashed. The water cannot be taken back, but you cannot splash a person with water in the cold winter and just walk away like that. Not to mention handing over a towel, at least you should apologize, right?

Of course, there must be people who say, I have low emotional intelligence and don't know how to speak. The more I want to make up for my previous verbal mistakes, the more angry people get. It is better to just shut up.

This is actually a typical avoidance psychology, which is of no benefit to interpersonal communication. The key to apology lies in showing attitude, that is, emotional contagion, not logical persuasion.

Think about it carefully. Many people start to cry after causing trouble in life, and can't even speak clearly. People around them will comfort them instead. There is no one who apologizes like a speech, and must explain the whole thing clearly.

It is better to say that at this time, the more you talk about logic and reason, the easier it is to look like you are shirking responsibility. It is better to express emotions directly, use emotions to infect others, and let them realize that you are indeed feeling sad for the harm you caused before, and express that this is not your original intention.

Doing this has another benefit. If you settle old accounts in the future, you can completely ignore the fact that you caused trouble, and focus on describing how sad you were crying at that time. If you are a little shameless, you can also express the meaning of "I was so sad at that time, but you were still caring about that thing".

This is indeed very unreasonable, but it is still the same sentence. The secret of social suppression is never to reason.

According to Wei En's experience, the symptoms of Reed's lack of sense of responsibility are the most serious he has ever seen, running through all aspects of his life, and even seriously affecting his daily life.

The most intuitive thing is that he has no friends.

The Fantastic Four were not formed, they were not bound together because of superpowers, and there was almost no friend in Reed's life. The comics never mentioned that he had any close friends.

Actually, if Reed Richards wasn't really too talented, with his serious degree of lack of sense of responsibility, he would have already rolled to the street to beg for food.

But precisely because Reed is too talented, this is an unsolvable dead knot. Wei En has to force him to solve it, because humans still need Reed's wisdom. If he is not treated, how can technology progress? How can humans develop?

Most importantly, without this famous universe-destroying engine of the multiverse, what does he use to threaten those universe administrators? ===== CHAPTER 3080 =====