Chapter 3080: Romantic

Wei En analyzed Reed's situation very meticulously. Some scenes he described that Reed might encounter in his daily life made Reed more convinced that he could read minds, because he had indeed encountered these situations more than once.

Reed also told Wei En about his mental journey. Because his IQ is very high and he has no pathological mental illness, he described it very accurately.

Reed's appearance is actually quite good. It can't compare with those famous handsome guys in Marvel, but it can also be ranked in the second echelon. His height is tall enough, 1.86 meters, and his figure is not very strong, but it is well-proportioned. His appearance looks like a talent.

But according to what he said himself, he was unpopular in his student days, and even encountered school bullying. Of course, those few people who wanted to bully him were cleaned up by him before they could move.

But even so, he often encountered cold violence, that is, being isolated by students, like a transparent person in the class, and no one talked to him.

The most magical thing is that his grades are so good, he gets an A in every subject every year, he doesn't smoke, drink, fight, or cause trouble, and he doesn't even fall in love, but no teacher likes him.

Not to mention the popularity with the opposite sex. It's not that he had to wait until now to fall in love, but many girls were very interested in him at first, and even took the initiative to chase him, but for some reason, they left soon, and some turned against him, making his reputation even worse.

At first, Reed felt that it must be because he was a genius, and this group of ordinary people was jealous of him, so they would unite to exclude him. How can a sparrow know the ambition of a swan?

But after entering university, he found that it didn't seem right. There are actually many geniuses in this world. At that time, Reed was still in the process of learning, and he didn't know which echelon he was in. When he came into contact with some new things, he would also find that some people were better than him. He thought this time he should have found a soulmate, right?

But no, the classmates in the same laboratory as him didn't like him either. The teachers only maintained superficial politeness. Although those prestigious professors affirmed his research results, they seemed to be avoiding him. Every time he wanted to ask for advice, everyone was sick.

During this period, Reed began to be confused. Is he a lone star of heavenly evil? How come no one likes him?

But fortunately, he is a real genius. Even if others don't like his personality, they have to pinch their noses and admit his talent. They have to cooperate if they should, and recommend him if they should. This didn't make him question himself, thus producing any mental illness.

For Reed, this world is a huge official business. Everyone's attitude toward him is a superficial attitude based on colleagues. As long as private friendship is mentioned, no one shakes their head.

Reed is so smart, of course he knows something went wrong. He also went to see a psychiatrist, but no illness was seen. Some doctors also tactfully pointed out that his way of dealing with people might have some problems.

This is not victim-blaming. Mainly, if everyone he met from childhood to now has this attitude, it is unlikely that they colluded. The possibility that the problem lies in Reed himself is relatively large.

Because he has never had any close friends and no one has been honest with him, he has never figured out the key, and he has become accustomed to it over time.

His achievements in academics are unmatched, and he is a bit lonely at the top, so he doesn't urgently need interpersonal communication, because without social interaction, he lives quite well.

But this time is different. He likes a girl, of course he wants to take the initiative to communicate with her, but the painful experiences of the past few times made him not very confident, fearing that Susan would be like those female classmates in his middle school days, who were fine when they didn't know him well at the beginning of school, but started to alienate him after a period of time.

Although Reed also showed kindness to Susan, he didn't dare to get too close. He could see that Susan also had feelings for him, but Susan didn't take the initiative to approach him either. The two had been in a stalemate for a while.

When Wei En asked what Susan needed most, Reed actually realized the problem, but he didn't expect that all the tragedies of his interpersonal communication in his life actually originated from the word "sense of responsibility".

The so-called serious illness needs strong medicine. In order to make Reed cooperate with the treatment, Wei En simulated what would happen after they truly fell in love and even got married.

Reed is very interested in this. He also often fantasizes about walking into the marriage hall with Susan. He didn't even eat, and stared at Wei En with glowing eyes while biting the straw of coconut milk.

"Okay, the first question. You two have established a relationship now and are going to have the first date after falling in love. She asks for your opinion, what will you say?"

Reed seemed to have been immersed in beautiful fantasies. He cleared his throat and said, "Of course it's up to you, dear."

"Okay, I think Ms. Susan is cautious about her attitude toward feelings, so for the first date after establishing a relationship, she chooses shopping and watching movies, which are common. When she says her choice, what will you say?"

As soon as the word shopping was mentioned, Reed frowned, but quickly calmed his expression and said, "Okay, maybe you will be interested in these, let's go."

Wei En stared at him for a long time. Reed touched his face and said, "Is there any problem?"

"The problem is huge." Wei En sighed helplessly and said, "What is 'maybe you will be interested in these'?"

Reed was also a bit confused. He said, "It's just the literal meaning. I feel like Susan is someone who would be very interested in shopping."

"Then aren't you interested?"

"Of course not, I don't like shopping at all." Reed spread his hands and said, "I can't distinguish those messy luxury brands, and those restaurants opened in the mall are not delicious."

"Then why don't you oppose it directly?"

Reed said suspiciously, "Didn't I say it? She is interested in these things, so we go."

"Then can't you affirm her and say 'that's a good idea'?"

"This is what she is interested in, so I accompany her. Actually, I am not interested in these. I just want to tell her the reason why I will go."

"Then why did you say it's up to her when she asked for your opinion?"

"Then I still followed her, didn't I?"

"Then why don't you agree with her?"

"Because I just don't like these."

"Then why say it's up to her?"

Reed was a bit confused by Wei En. He spread his hands on the table and said, "I like Susan, so I think she can decide where we go next, so I said it's up to her. I don't like the place she goes, so I tell her, this is because you like it, so we go. What's the problem with this?"

"Of course there is a problem. Why do you sit together to discuss the date location? Because you want to use this date to deepen your feelings for each other. A good date location can make feelings warm up faster."

"The date location that can make feelings warm up quickly must be one that you both like, one that can keep you both in a happy mood. Can't you figure this out with your IQ?"

Reed thought for a while and nodded, saying, "That's right, that's the truth."

"Since this is the case, the purpose of your sitting together to discuss is to discuss a date location that you both like. If you don't want to reach a consensus, then there is no need to sit down and communicate, right?"

Reed thought again and said, "That's right."

"Since the purpose of communication is to reach a consensus, then every word and action you take in this communication is terrible to the extreme."

"You first said that the date location is up to her, which is actually expressing that you like whatever location she chooses. But after she chooses, you say that you actually don't like the location she chose. Since you really don't like it, why did you express the attitude of 'I agree with all your choices' to her at the beginning?"

Reed touched his temples with his fingers and said, "I just want to make her happy."

"I see. Then it seems that the goal of your communication this time is not to reach a consensus, but to make her happy?"

Reed nodded.

"Then your first step is right. You express complete respect for her choice. What you like is what I like. Then why don't you continue to coax her in the second question, continue to agree with her, but must express that you don't like it yourself?"

Before Reed could speak, Wei En continued, "Because you think the facts are like this, but is the goal of this communication to discuss facts?"

Reed pursed his lips and didn't speak. He had just changed the goal of this communication from reaching a consensus to making Susan happy.

"I might have mixed it up a bit." Reed said, "But this can't be said that I lack a sense of responsibility, right? I still intend to go with her, don't I?"

"Do you think that you accompanied her to a place you didn't like is compensation for the mistakes in your previous words?"

"Uh, I probably wouldn't feel that it was a mistake, but if she is happy, I can accept accompanying her to shop in those luxury stores and then go to those restaurants that are not delicious."

"What about the words you said wrong?"

"I probably wouldn't realize I said it wrong at the time, and I think Susan wouldn't be angry just because of a few words."

"Maybe she won't this time, but what if she will one day? What will you do?"

"If she is angry, I will apologize to her." Reed said, "I will say 'I didn't mean to say that, I'm very sorry'."

"That's about it, and then?"

"Uh, what then?"

"That's it?"

"Otherwise?"

Wei En sighed again and said, "You perfectly demonstrated what is called an insincere apology."

"Because I think I would feel very inexplicable at the time, not knowing what she is angry about, but if apologizing can make her not angry, I will do so."

"But this might make her even more angry."

"Why?"

"Because you didn't understand what she was angry about, but trying your best to understand your girlfriend's emotions is your responsibility. Don't you think so?"

"What if I really can't understand?"

"What if there is a difficult problem in your research project that you can't overcome?"

Reed thought seriously for a while and said, "I don't think there is any scientific research problem in this world that I can't overcome, but if there is indeed such a thing, maybe I will choose to change my thinking, break it from another angle, or continue to study and think deeply. I believe I can definitely understand."

"Then why don't you have such confidence in feelings?"

"Because there are too many things I don't understand in this regard."

Wei En realized that Reed had another serious problem, which is that his social self-confidence is very low.

It might be because he has never succeeded in social interaction from childhood to adulthood, he has no confidence in understanding and empathizing with others, and prefers to choose the simplest solution.

The so-called simplest solution is to follow the formula. When others are angry, he says sorry. When others are sad, he says don't cry. When others are depressed, he says think about it. When others are excited, he says calm down. This kind of formula is quite useful for autistic or Asperger's patients, because they essentially cannot understand others, which helps them disguise themselves as a normal person.

But Reed is a normal person. He uses this formula because he feels he cannot understand others, or that understanding is useless, and he will still fail in social interaction, which is also a kind of social disorder.

Wei En felt that his problem was a bit serious, and it was difficult to correct it with conventional methods. Establishing social self-confidence is not a matter of overnight, but Reed wants to chase Susan now.

Wei En paused, looked left and right, and then said somewhat sneakily, "There are two methods now. One is formal, regular, safe and reliable, but the speed is relatively slow. The other is to take a different approach, and I am not responsible for its safety, but it can be learned quickly. Which one do you want to choose?"

"Of course it's the quick one!" ===== CHAPTER 3081 =====

"Of course it's instant!"